“If overthinking were an Olympic sport, I’d have a gold medal and my own Wheaties box.” Here are 10 common unhelpful thinking styles (Link to my original post of May 3rd, 2019) that can quietly feed anxiety, depression, and self-doubt. These aren’t signs of weakness—they’re patterns the brain learns to protect you. But left unchecked, they can distort how you see yourself … [Read more...] about 10 Unhelpful Thinking Styles That Fuel Anxiety and How to Stop Them
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I Changed My Life With Depression — Here’s the Part No One Tells You”
We talk about depression like it’s one thing with one simple cause. I have always thought of it that way. But the truth is, depression is rarely that simple. It’s not just “being sad” or “having a bad day.” It is constantly a part of me, and doesn’t go on vacation, as I previously assumed. Depression is a real, multi-layered condition shaped by what’s happening in your … [Read more...] about I Changed My Life With Depression — Here’s the Part No One Tells You”
My 70th birthday is coming, and the hardest question isn’t about cake — it’s learning how to choose what I really want for myself.
It’s me again. I’ve been off for a few weeks, and I need to write again. I wish I didn't feel like doo-doo. I’m certain that having a severe cold is not making me feel any better. It came on about 72 hours ago. I spent Saturday traveling from the bed to the couch, and then back to the bed. There are a bunch of things on my to-do list for today. Getting my laundry done … [Read more...] about My 70th birthday is coming, and the hardest question isn’t about cake — it’s learning how to choose what I really want for myself.
Is the Question What Comes Next?
It feels like I know what the honest answer is. Yet I cannot bring myself to say the words. Saying it should be easy, as it is something about my future. So far, all I have is a list of things I don’t want. For one thing, I know that I don’t want to be taken advantage of. All of my life, I have said yes to others’ needs, often at the expense of myself. I am finally, after … [Read more...] about Is the Question What Comes Next?
STILL OK, NOT SAD, NOT MAD, JUST OK
I just left my weekly therapy appointment. As I went in, I wondered how long I have just felt OK. And how long have I been thinking about this? This must have been going on for years. And I may have made up a reason for this happening. If I did not have one, my depression would have stepped in and added its own color commentary. I first heard someone say, " It must be the … [Read more...] about STILL OK, NOT SAD, NOT MAD, JUST OK
