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I Learned Something About Working with Others Today

March 8, 2023 by Depression Is Not My Boss

I learned that I try to control people and it is not depression that is doing this

Photo by Sivani Bandaru on Unsplash It appears that I am very bad at it. I would like to think that I have a knack for working with others and inspiring them to do their absolute best. And often this is true. Most of the managers, supervisors, and employees that report to me seem to get my ideas and execute them. Perhaps it’s because I treat them the way I would want to … [Read more...] about I Learned Something About Working with Others Today

If I Am Not in Control, Am I Out of Control?

February 17, 2020 by Depression Is Not My Boss

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Two things are on my mind this morning. My ability to get out of bed in the morning and a mysterious charge to my checking account. Sometime after I went to bed last night, I was charged $200 for a “Promo-Kit.†The time was 11:20 PM and I was in bed, asleep. I discovered it this morning as I reviewed my account. I guess I still have some … [Read more...] about If I Am Not in Control, Am I Out of Control?

What do you mean I’m blaming others?

October 22, 2019 by Depression Is Not My Boss

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How could he even say that? That I am blaming my depression for my actions. That I am making excuses for my actions and not being responsible. That’s not even close to what I am thinking. I am a mess today. My therapy session has opened all kinds of feelings, emotions, and who the hell knows what else. And worse, I see the next session as an … [Read more...] about What do you mean I’m blaming others?

How can you be in control and have depression?

October 20, 2019 by Depression Is Not My Boss

How can you be in control when you have depression?

Being in control is powerful. Feeling helpless, not having control can be debilitating and unhealthy. I have been on both sides of the aisle lately. Sometimes I have felt in control and at other times have allowed myself to feel helpless, to be the victim in the situation. Linking my control issues to depression has been a real eye-opener. Sleeping habits seem to be … [Read more...] about How can you be in control and have depression?

First time on a plane

September 17, 2019 by Depression Is Not My Boss

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Ok, so it’s the first time I will have flown since being in the hospital for depression. I am an avid adventurer and have been flying for over 50 years. I remember when people smoked on a plane. I remember pre 9/11 security and when we called flight attendants “stewardesses.†Giving up control to the pilot and crew has … [Read more...] about First time on a plane

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