Dictionaryself-care noun the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health."autonomy in self-care and insulin administration"the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress. "expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care" Taking an active role in protecting … [Read more...] about Why am I Fighting My Own Self-Care?
guilt and shame
Deer in Headlights
I’m freezing, standing still, no decisive plan to move. And this lack of movement is making me feel angry, frustrated (is that a feeling?) and a touch sad. I know I should be completing projects. The evidence of that is strewn across my desk, is tossed carelessly on the floorboards of my truck, and piled in a heap in my closet, instead of being in the … [Read more...] about Deer in Headlights
Self-care Lets Me Not Give a “Darn” About Others
I’m pretty sure that word is not PC these days. But self-care is all the rage in support groups. I have written a lot about putting on my own oxygen mask first, before helping others. It makes sense when you look at it from a safe distance. Yet when I examine it up close and personal, my motives seem much less altruistic. My motives end up seeming … [Read more...] about Self-care Lets Me Not Give a “Darn” About Others
Why am I feeling so guilty for setting boundaries?
In the end, that is the whole premise of self-care. To take care of yourself. To understand what you need and be able to ask for it. Getting it may be something different, but the asking is important. Wanting to better understand boundaries and self-care, of course, I Googled it. Here is the last part of an article I found on the subject. How can you begin to … [Read more...] about Why am I feeling so guilty for setting boundaries?
Everybody wants me, but do I want myself?
This seems to be the question of the day. What do others see in me that I am not seeing in myself? Why does my mind gravitate to all the things I could a, shoulda, would a done, and dismiss or minimize the good, dare I say, great things I have accomplished? When I begin to question that belief, it does not hold up. Yet here I am sensationalizing my mistakes and minimizing … [Read more...] about Everybody wants me, but do I want myself?
