Then just pay me a compliment. My mind immediately goes to everything I have ever done that didn’t measure up. I cannot hear the “good job” because my head is filled with “You don’t deserve this,” or “it’s only a matter of time before people figure out I am a fraud or imposter.” With all that in my head, I cannot hear “good job.” Now I have been working on this. I … [Read more...] about Want to get me feeling like I don’t deserve something?
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Proven Coping Statements for Depression and Anxiety
I know coping statements work. I use them in my daily life. And positive affirmations are a form of coping statement that reinforces a belief or moves me in the direction of owning that belief or feeling. Some of my go-to coping statements are: Stop, and breathe, I can do thisThis will passI can be anxious/angry/sad and still deal with thisI have done this before, and … [Read more...] about Proven Coping Statements for Depression and Anxiety
What Are Helpful Coping Statements and What Are Not?
What are coping statements? Coping statements are truthful positive statements used to replace the negative and untrue thoughts that take-over when you feel anxious, stressed, angry, and/or when facing other overwhelming situations. "Remember that it won't hurt forever" is a coping statement. Being a truthful statement counter-acts negative unhelpful … [Read more...] about What Are Helpful Coping Statements and What Are Not?
Which Coping Statements for Depression Work for Me?
Positive coping statements for depression is one tool that keeps me from circling the drain. Having spent decades with unhelpful thinking, that was all I knew. And depression was right there to steer me away when I got near coping statements for depression. It often sent me time traveling. I spent more time in the future than Marty in “back to the future.” The future for me … [Read more...] about Which Coping Statements for Depression Work for Me?
What You See May Not Be What You Get
I see eyes and a mouth ready to eat me if I get too close. That’s what I see as I sit in my therapist’s office waiting for my appointment. Maybe I watched too many cartoons as a child. I see the raised couch cushion forming an upper lip, while the frame underneath becomes the bottom of the mouth. And the tops of the sofa arms, become eyes. But if I go over, all I will … [Read more...] about What You See May Not Be What You Get