What it Feels Like to Not Get the Job

I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t disappointed.

Being one of three candidates for the position, there was not a huge amount of competition. And I felt I had the experience and the proven skills the position called for. So, to receive a call and be told someone else got the position was a bit of a letdown. But I am not circling the drain.

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Being on the other end for over 40 years, I have given the bad news and the good news to hundreds of candidates.

For those who are not getting the position, I always remind them that how they act when they did not get the position defines their true character more than how they act when they are given the new position. After speaking with the manager who I would have been working with, I touched base with my current boss. While I affirmed that I was a little disappointed, I was sure to reinforce my commitment to him and my current position.

And I do so very much appreciate him giving me the opportunity to come out of retirement.

As I approach 30 years with the same company, I understand that is not normal. The new normal, even before Covid-19 is job changes every three to five years. Many of my resume clients are climbing the corporate ladder by switching ladders, not staying with the same organization.

Back to the new job, I know there will be other opportunities.

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And I am learning so much from the managers, supervisors, and employees I work with now. So, I am doubling down my resolve to do the best possible job in the position I have now. And I will continue to do the job I expect to have.

I set a remarkably high standard for myself and understand what the company is looking for.

This shadow of a leader mentality is with me from the moment I walk into work. I do not need my boss or my regional Vice President or our CEO to be there before I do my best job. There is a huge amount of pride in what I do. And I expect to give the best possible service, to make the appropriate decisions, and to uphold the company’s ethical standards. Plus, I live in the community and I see many of these people on a weekly basis.

I take pride in where I work and want everyone to see our building as the best place they have ever shopped.

So, not getting the position does not have me circling the drain. I am not bitter and do not feel like I need to throw a tantrum. The truth is, I am excited to be working during this pandemic. I appreciate the opportunity, knowing that millions do not have a job.

Enough talk, I am ready to go back to work.

My concealed depression is written under the alias “Depression is not my boss.” I have certifications in SMART Recovery and am a Global Career Development Facilitator.

Diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder last year, I am sharing what I learn.

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